Wednesday, October 19, 2005

First Impressions

They say that first impressions can make or break you.


We interrupt this blog to bring you this public service announcement from the mind of Kpinion:

Let’s take a moment here to talk about the infamous “they”. I want to be one of the “they”. In fact, you may not realize it but I am one of the “they”. I am actually the only “they” there is in the world but you wouldn’t just listen to me so I had to make myself plural thus the “they” instead of the “she”. And then it couldn’t just be Katie of Kpinion said because then you wouldn’t give it the weight that you give it when it is just anonymous “they”. Funny that we will attack the suppositions put forth by a person because we can evaluate who they are and how we view their ability to reason but if “they” say it then we take it as absolute truth because who can argue with “they” if you don’t know who “they” is. I am so very crafty that I made myself into “they” because I will slowly but surely take over the world by spreading my kpinions as fact under the pseudonym of “they”.

And now back to your regular programming.

So where was I? Oh yes, first impressions and how they can make or break you. I often wonder exactly what type of first impression I make on people. Is it good, is it bad, or is it just ok? Then I also ponder if I make the same general first impression on everyone or do my surroundings, the nature of the meeting, or better yet the “role” that I am in at that moment distinguish between the impression I make. And then I begin to think, is my first impression a true impression of me? Or is my first impression just that, an impression of who someone perceives me to be by assumptions they make about me due to the context in which they first encounter me (and yes I think the word encounter is important here because to meet is to learn a name or to see a face but to encounter is to be impacted enough that you take away an impression of that person.)

I’m interested to know what people’s first impressions of me are. Now this is not a plea for praises and fawning over me (although that will in no way be discouraged). In fact some of my best friends had HORRIBLE first impressions of me. Thank goodness they decided to give me a second chance and get to know me a bit better.

This is also an ironic type question to ask on a blog because there is only a handful of you who know me personally, i.e. have encountered that which is Katie in person. So I’m wondering if I give a different impression on my blog then I do in real life and then if the specific post or general line of posts that you first encountered at Kpinion gave you a specific first impression.

Now I want you to be HONEST. In fact I want Eddo to state his first impression of me because I know for a fact it wasn’t the best in the world. And for those few of you (and this would really only be Steve and JCol) who met me first online and then in person I’m interested to know what each first impression was and what was different between the two.

Now I will not ask you to provide me this information without giving my impression of you in return (I’m a big fan of reciprocity). So if you comment I will, in turn, comment back

58 Comments:

Blogger Ben said...

I think that it would be hard to have a first impression of you... because I have already had an encounter with you.

But I am sure my first impression of you when I actually meet you is that you are really talk. AND that you have ridiculously shiny hair.

10/19/2005 12:13 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ok Ben's comments alerts me that i need to clarify:

I would like your first impression of me regardless of if we have met in person. That is, Ben when you first started reading Kpinion what was your impression of me?

I am really talK? Uhh what is that?

10/19/2005 12:19 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

And this is more an impression of me, the whole package, not just physical attributes.

10/19/2005 12:20 PM  
Blogger Ben said...

Well, Eddie said to check out your site so I did... and so I can't remember what my first impression was... cause you had only posted a couple of times... Although, I must admit that I kept coming back because you were both intellectual and wity. You can hold your own when somebody gives you a hard time... I love someone who can dish it back to me... makes life fun.

10/19/2005 12:27 PM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

*stretches hands in preparation of typing "JCol's First Impression of K-T"*

Well, since we've both blogged about the first time we met, I will try to approach this from a different perspective. My "first" impression of you comes in three stages.

First, there is the "blog first impression". Back in April, I began reading K-Pinion, and found myself catching up on your archives with utter delight. The stories that were introspective, thoughtful, and most of the time hilarious, made my first impression of you to be someone I would enjoy meeting, laughing with, and learning from.

The second portion of this "first" impression comes from the fact that I knew several people that knew you in "person". These people had nothing but praise for Katie, which only confirmed my first "first" impression.

The third portion of the "first" impression comes from our divine meeting in the hallway at church. When I stopped in my tracks as I saw the ridiculously shiny locks on a friendly face that had a quizzical look on it and I heard you say "Amstaff Mom?". I got not one, but two great hugs, and met a friend in person that I now cherish.

That, K-T, is my first impression of you. And it was an accurate one indeed.

10/19/2005 12:32 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ok Ben my FI (first impression) of you:

Funny, that you were a lot younger than you are (I think that is because of your old masthead with the two young 20 year old walking through a mall), that you were much more metropolitan than you are country (not that you are super country but hello you have a John Deere tractor thing and you whittle wood), that you were very smart (multiple master's degrees) and that I really really liked that you were the first ever person to read my blog and comment that I didn't know personally

10/19/2005 1:03 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

JCol - My first impression of you was that you came and then you went and I remember wondering why you left the blog world so suddenly.

I also remember thinking you were so shy when we first met in person and you were a bit quiet. I now know you are a RIOT and about the sweetest thing on this earth (I thought that too from just knowing you over the blog)

10/19/2005 1:05 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Here goes:

K-T. You mentioned it on my site today, I'm going to say it back to you on yours: Since we seem often times to be the same person, or just so very freakishly similar in so many respects, I couldn't help but think you were the greatest thing since sliced bread after you stopped by my site that day (after having found me on Steve's site: Thanks Steve! And thanks to Blogger for randomly pointing me in his direction!) and commented on urban ministry experience.

What fun it's been getting to know you and all of your friends! So I guess to answer your question: I thought you were awesome when I first "met" you: and still maintain that opinion to this day as I get to know more and more about you!

10/19/2005 1:30 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Stephanie: I remember thinking the first time I read your blog - this girl has some HEART. It was so obvious from that first post. And then I thought that I would LOVE to meet her in person because we would have SO MUCH FUN. So I thought you were Fun with Heart.

10/19/2005 1:37 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Oh and by the way.. Love you for things like this:

"I am so very crafty that I made myself into “they” because I will slowly but surely take over the world by spreading my kpinions as fact under the pseudonym of “they"..

Girl, you crack me up...

10/19/2005 1:52 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Oh and Mr. Ben I got interested in when you did in fact visit Kpinion for the first time: March, MARCH. I started my blog in October and you didn't come until march. Sad.

10/19/2005 1:52 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Stephanie - shhhhhh don't tell anyone I am "they" or the whole world domination thing will fall to pieces.

10/19/2005 1:53 PM  
Blogger Ben said...

Eddie didn't highlight your blog till then...

It's all EDDIE'S Fault.

10/19/2005 2:00 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

EDDIE

10/19/2005 2:02 PM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

I came, I went, but I still read. I never stopped reading any of y'alls blogs! Truth be told, I even made a few anonymous comments here and there. I saw one the other day when I was in Eddo's archives. Too funny.

I still am shy most of the time, and take my place as the quietest of the bunch, but I definitely have my moments too. Especially when when we looked at each other at the EXACT same time with the EXACT same face during Elizabethtown after seeing that guy's boxers. HILARIOUS.

10/19/2005 2:15 PM  
Blogger steve said...

Katie you are the same in person as you are on your blog.

My first impression was a deep thinker who loved God and friends. Someone that didnt just talk about surface level things. You were willing to go deeper to find answers and that is such a good trait.

You were the same in person. Love to laugh, love to talk about God and life. Always willing to be a servant. What more could someone ask for in a friend!

10/19/2005 2:37 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ok from now on I must meet all people through my blog first. I seem to make a better first impression on screen then I do in person.


Hmm you think people would think I was weird if I directed them to my blog upon them meeting me for the first time?

10/19/2005 2:43 PM  
Blogger jes said...

kt, unfortunately, you already know my first impression of you.

but! that was so long ago! and i hung in there! and i soon learned that you're actually a great gal!

nothing like a little encouragement from a friend, right?

10/19/2005 2:47 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Steve:
Hmmm first impression. Oh my word, this guy is different from anyone I've ever met. Really, you are a rocker, with tons of tatoos, a background that is entirely different from mine and yet you were discussing great spiritual things on your blog with such passion and wisdom. You also made me laugh A LOT.

In person: more quiet then I expected (i.e. you go inside your head sometimes), very sure of himself and secure in who he is, FUNNY and easygoing, stomach of steel

10/19/2005 2:48 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

But Jes I WANT you to say what your first impression of me was.

I'm ok with you telling the world you thought I was stuck up.

10/19/2005 2:49 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Oh JCol the boxers - those were just TOO MUCH. I am laughing about them right now and how relieved I was when we saw that there were multiple head shots on there not just that ONE

10/19/2005 2:50 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

I have given Jessica my blessing to put her honest opinion of my first impression on her. She is so sweet and kind and didn't want to say something not so nice but it is honest and real and I already know it so I want her to say it.

Jessica is free from all retribution for being honest and doing what I asked.

Thanks JES I LOVE YOU.

10/19/2005 2:52 PM  
Blogger jes said...

okay, okay. i'll say it: when i first met katie, i thought she was a SNOB. With a capital "S."

she and her friend (whom I also thought was a snob, but later decided she wasn't, and we were even all roommates once!) needed a ride home from a party.

my roommate and i had extra space in our car. so we GRACIOUSLY took them home. the music was low at first, and we tried to make conversation. but kt and ama just whispered and whispered in the back seat, sort of abiding by the "don't speak unless spoken to" rule, and "when you do speak, make your sentences very short."

my roommate (taryn) and i thought this was stupid, so we turned the music up a little louder (please keep in mind this was fairly early in the car ride), over which we could still hear ama & kt whispering and giggling.

since taryn & i were new on the scene, and it was literally our first event with the group, we thought ama & kt were bit snobbish. and then, they made fun of our music! which really, was MY music!

and, i STILL have the CD. and, i STILL play the CD. it was of an African acapella choir.

i think that next time kt comes over to my house, i'm going to play that CD over and over and over again, if only for spite.

i'm loving that way.

a few more events later, taryn & i decide that kt & ama weren't so bad. in fact, we liked them! in fact, we spent time with them! in fact, we all moved in a house together! in fact, ama & i would run around videoing kt while she was sleeping!

it was a very loving relationship, indeed.

10/19/2005 3:01 PM  
Blogger amelia said...

This is all a very interesting conversation! I wish I knew you! What I've come to love about blogging is that you get to know people in such a different light than you do many times in person. It's like when you date someone long distance and you HAVE to communicate (which my hubby and I dated LD for the 1st year) and you end up talking and thinking things through more than you do in person. Anyway, I digress...

My first impression of you through your blog was that you were funny in a random kind of way which I love, a thinker, and very serious about your faith and being real about it.

10/19/2005 3:05 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Now that's what I'm talking about. Poor Jessica, I'm not even sure why AMA and I acted like that. It was nothing against Jes or Taryn. I think that we were a bit overwhelmed by these two new girls, one who was very intelligent and deep (Taryn) and the other who was silly and crazy (Jes) and the fact that these two very different girls were great friends. Sad, I hate that Jes has that first impression of me and I wish I could go back and change it but I can't. Thank goodness she stuck around to find out more about me. Ha ha, the music was weird, and I can deal with acapella choirs but this was all drums and chanting and she turned it up REALLY loud. ahahahahaha

10/19/2005 3:07 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Jes - My first impression of you then was that you were silly and a bit louder than the normal person. I was a little overwhelmed by you because you busted into the youth group and hit the ground running and screaming. I have since come to know that I LOVE that trait about you and you are a dear dear friend. Good thing we hung out more with each other (oh and I was a bit preterbed that you and AMA filmed me ALL NIGHT LONG - gosh can't a girl sleep without being attacked by the hairest cats in the world and filmed by crazy non-sleepers who giggled the entire time they filmed me while I was sleeping)

10/19/2005 3:09 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

I love stories like that: That's how my roommate/one of my best friends and I first came to know one another: Pretty much couldn't stand one another... and now I loooooove her!!! In fact, she's partially responsible for leading me to the Lord!

10/19/2005 3:11 PM  
Blogger jes said...

hahahaha...just remembering all the cats in that house, and the filming of you in the wee hours of the morning and the late hours of the evening...made me giggle again! heeeheeee!!!!

10/19/2005 3:12 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ha Amelia I'm on your site RIGHT NOW.

Hmmm my first impression, who is this cute blonde with the fun blog site? And then upon a bit more investigation what a fun gal who is silly and yet so honest about her life and her relationship with God. FUN STUFF.

10/19/2005 3:12 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ha and I think that was the night ya'll were filming as I did figure 8's in the police station parking lot at speeds beyond what was safe and I was laughing at you getting car sick. Wow that makes me sound pretty mean.

10/19/2005 3:16 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

oh wait that last one was for Jes.

10/19/2005 3:17 PM  
Blogger Older Twin said...

My first impression had to have been Uh Oh, Trouble.....

10/19/2005 3:46 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ahahahah OT that is so funny. My first impression of you had to have been:

Crud there's two of them.

10/19/2005 3:48 PM  
Blogger Luke said...

First Impression: Country, Christian, Thinker (love that!), Witty, and Devoted.

10/19/2005 4:04 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Oh maybe I should clarify that older twin is my younger sister (her twin - younger twin - shows up every once in a while)

10/19/2005 4:06 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Country? COUNTRY?

Oh Luke you are so mistaken, I am not at all country. Ahahahahahahahahahahahaha, I may sound country only on rare occasions and I may at this time live in the country but I am so far from country that I'm laughing that you got that impression of me.


Luke: FI - deep, delving, falling off that rock

10/19/2005 4:08 PM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

Ha Ha Ha! "Crud, there's two of them". I KNOW Brian's sister thought this same thing at the ripe ol' age of 1 1/2. CAN YOU IMAGINE? 3 kids under 1 1/2??!? Brian's poor, poor parents.

10/19/2005 4:29 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Deude Brian has an older sister? Did I know that? One girl and three boys. Poor thing.

And yes there are moments when I feel bad for my poor mom because she had me (a handful) and then two more when I was only two. Three kids all under the age of TWO. She deserves come kind of award or something. GOSH.

10/19/2005 4:33 PM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

They deserve an award alright. Yes, Brian's sister lives in Colorado. Not in the neighborhood with the rest of the kids!

Don't feel sorry for her, she used to beat them up when they were little. Ha!

10/19/2005 4:43 PM  
Blogger Broken Messenger said...

I’m interested to know what people’s first impressions of me are. Now this is not a plea for praises and fawning over me (although that will in no way be discouraged). In fact some of my best friends had HORRIBLE first impressions of me. Thank goodness they decided to give me a second chance and get to know me a bit better.

My first impression of you was: perky! ...yet very sincere.

A combination that seems to be increasingly rare these days.

Brad

10/19/2005 5:05 PM  
Blogger Shelley said...

My first impresion was that you are devoted to God, smart, thought provoking, fun loving and funny. I loved your blog and had to book mark it.

10/19/2005 8:25 PM  
Blogger Cav said...

typing with one hand so it wont be long.

kt, sweet, caring, likes to laugh,

this is just from meeting you in person game night.

on the blog you are intellectual, insighful and again, caring.

i know there is a lot more - but that is what I got. :)

10/19/2005 9:41 PM  
Blogger Live, Love, Laugh said...

hmmm! I've been watching you and your friends thru the blog window for some time now but ... honestly at first when I remember seeing you at the Hangar and church, you seemed kind of observant, I guess is the word. I don't want to say shy, and I don't want to say snobby, but kind of stand offish. Does that make sense? Perhaps peroccupied is the word.

I have always thought your blog was funny, insightful and imaginative. I have enjoyed reading it although I haven't left comments in awhile.

Really Katie, after meeting you again at church the other night, my impression is you are really sweet and obviously love the Lord very sincerely. Chuck asked me who all of you were, then asked me again, who was the blonde! lol! I had to laugh because you have been sort of in the family for awhile now! Eddo is always laughing about something that happened on game night!

10/20/2005 4:22 AM  
Blogger Luke said...

I think I got "country" from the pic of you staring over the fence...it looked country

10/20/2005 8:09 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ok Broken Messenger - Ha ha the perky comment made me laugh, if only because many people who meet me in person for the first time say the same thing (I guess I try to be "up" when I meet people)

FI for you: Whoa this guy is deep and smart and talks about all the things I want to talk about and does it in such a way that it makes me think long and hard before I respond

10/20/2005 8:25 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Shelley - Thanks sweet girl, and that was my first impression that you were just so sweet and kind and your blog made me smile

10/20/2005 8:26 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Cav - FUNNY and also very secure in who she is, in person both of these were just confirmed

How's the elbow? Poor girl, I've been praying for quick healing.

10/20/2005 8:27 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

LLL (or Eddo's sweet mom) - I was probably a bit standoffish back when I worked with the youth group, I think I let the "work" get in the way of the "ministry with kids" - good thing God has taught me a lot through that

FI for you: OMW just the best mom ever, how can I not think you are AMAZING with the amount of bragging your son does about you, and then also to see the amazing servant you have been all these years to those around you (especially at the boys home - I've always remembered Eddie talking about you and his dad working there forever and I even remember ya'll bringing boys to youth group). I love reading your blog and getting to see the depth of your heart.

10/20/2005 8:29 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Luke - ha ha that pic is actually of me sitting on a dock on this little pond in Jessica's apartment complex in DALLAS (not a very country place no matter what the TV show led you to believe)

10/20/2005 8:30 AM  
Blogger Luke said...

Ok, so I'm retarded.

word verification: bammy (even your blog wants to smack me)

10/20/2005 8:36 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Katie: I thought the same thing when I first saw your pic: "Wow, that girl looks Cooooouuuuuntry!" It was just the pose... or something. :)

majskph - Magic Steph...?

10/20/2005 10:00 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

How funny. Did anyone else think I looked country? When I think of country I think of western but maybe you are thinking quaint sweet county with a baby cow in the background and fields of corn over the green hill filled with wildflowers. That is how I picture you thinking country.

Does my new pic look country? Am I country and didn't know it. Darn.

10/20/2005 10:08 AM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

I thought you were out in the country too K-T!!!! How funny! I didn't think you WERE country, just that you WERE IN the country.

10/20/2005 10:15 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Yeah... I thought you WERE country at first glance. Wildflowers, cornfields, baby cows, horses and all. Now... not so much. :)

10/20/2005 10:42 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

"Not so much" another of my favorite sayings. it is a great answer to any question, leaves the asker hanging for a definite response

10/20/2005 10:44 AM  
Blogger Shelley said...

I thought you lived on a farm from that pic...it looked to me like a fence like Luke (I think that's who said it) said...figured you were looking at horses or something lol.

10/20/2005 8:05 PM  
Blogger Live, Love, Laugh said...

awwhhh Katie that is so sweet! Too bad we never talked much back in the day, huh?, however I do know more than you think I know cause Eddo has talked about you for years it seems. lol!!

10/21/2005 6:43 AM  
Blogger The Blog Patrol said...

KT, first impression, I thought you and Amanda were a little bit clique-ish. I remember that both of you were dressed alike and that you both had large black purses.

Remember Mazatlan? You were both nice, but a little distant, I didn't worry about it though, I can be intimidating when people first meet me, especially back then and I was already "in" at the High School group and you were just starting.

10/21/2005 4:04 PM  

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